Enneagram and Birth | Type 9
9: THE PEACEMAKER
“Nines are accepting, trusting, and stable. They are usually creative, optimistic, and supportive, but can also be too willing to go along with others to keep the peace. They want everything to go smoothly and be without conflict, but they can also tend to be complacent, simplifying problems and minimizing anything upsetting. They typically have problems with inertia and stubbornness. At their Best: indomitable and all-embracing, they are able to bring people together and heal conflicts.”
Nines will seek out peace. Labor can feel chaotic at times so instinctually, nines may struggle to “sit” with that.
Nines may be easily swayed or talked into something that they previously didn’t want. Especially in labor, you will be feeling very vulnerable. Having a doula will help you to talk through or avoid these situations.
If your birth plans change, it may be hard for you to accept the fact that things weren’t how you’d hoped they would be. You strive for peace and acknowledging what may have been a chaotic experience could be hard for you.
As a nine, you may not want to burden others with your story or the shame/disappointment/sadness you feel about your birth experience – try to fight this feeling. People want to be there for you!
Talk with someone you trust (preferably someone who will be at your birth) about your wishes for your birth. Tell them that it’s their job during your labor to remind you of these wishes and that they matter, even if it causes conflict.
Ask your birth team to remind you during your labor that everything is fine and normal, even if it feels chaotic to you. This may help you to stay “present” during your labor so that you can fully enjoy the journey to meeting your baby!
If this isn’t your first birth experience, make sure you’ve truly dealt with all of the fear or emotions surrounding your first experience. You may think you’ve dealt with them, but you may have more work to do.