Enneagram + Birth | Type 3
3: THE ACHIEVER
“Threes are self-assured, attractive, and charming. Ambitious, competent, and energetic, they can also be status-conscious and highly driven for advancement. They are diplomatic and poised, but can also be overly concerned with their image and what others think of them. They typically have problems with workaholism and competitiveness. At their Best: self-accepting, authentic, everything they seem to be—role models who inspire others.”
When a three makes a goal, they will typically achieve it. While this is great in “regular” life, this is harder in labor. Things can change quickly and as a three, you may have a harder time accepting the fact that you can’t simply achieve a goal when it comes to birth.
It may be instinctual for you to set goals for your birth, but be mindful that labor is unpredictable.
Threes’ basic desire is to feel valuable – understand and believe that you are incredibly important and valuable. You are the only person who can bring this baby into the world and the only person who can be his/her mother. That’s an incredibly special role.
Try to imagine your birth in a new way this week. Don’t think about the goals you may have set or how you imagine your labor progressing. Think about the final moment and meeting your baby. Think about holding your baby in your arms for the first time. Think about experiencing something as magical as birth and how special it is that you get to do that.
Creating affirmations for birth (whether physically writing them out or speaking them to yourself) can be extremely helpful in creating a good mindset for labor. Focus on affirmations that remind you of your worth as you labor.
Talk to your birth team about your “goals.” Allow them to be honest with you in setting expectations and choose to be open about changing your mindset and goals, if needed.